The Ableing Shift Circle Video Series

Learn at your own pace — short lessons, real encouragement, lasting impact.

The videos below, in addition to the Boundary book, are your introduction to The Ableing Shift — how it works, why it matters, and how you can start using it today.

Each one is short, practical, and meant to meet you exactly where you are.

You can rewatch these anytime — the more you listen, the calmer and clearer you’ll become. 

Understanding the Pattern

Video 1 – The Ableing Shift

Theme: What Ableing means and how it changes everything.
Takeaway: “You don’t have to stop helping; you have to start helping differently.”

Video 2 – From Fear to Belief

Theme: Transforming fear-driven control into trust and belief.
Takeaway: “Belief fuels change more effectively than fear ever will.”

Video 3 – Before the Boundary

Theme: Preparing internally before enforcing limits.
Takeaway: “A boundary is only as strong as the peace behind it.”

Changing the Dynamic

Video 4 – When Helping Hurts

Theme: The hidden cost of rescuing.
Takeaway: “Every time we remove a consequence, we remove a chance to grow.”

Video 5 – Changing the Conversation

Theme: Communicating to invite—not instruct—change.
Takeaway: “Asking builds trust; telling builds walls.”

Video 6 – The Path to Independence

Theme: The long-term vision of Ableing.
Takeaway: “Freedom is the goal—not control.”

Restoring Readiness and Unity

 Video 7 – When Boundaries Come Too Late

Theme: What happens when comfort replaces challenge.
Takeaway: “It’s never too late to replace comfort with growth.” 

 Video 8 – Two Ways of Loving

Theme: Healing the divide between hard-love and soft-love parents.
Takeaway: “Love and limits aren’t opposites—they’re coordinates.”